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In your lifetime, have you ever experienced the emotional highs or lows that caused you to do things that hurt you or those around you? Emotions that feel like a ping-pong ball bouncing across a table? Then, you begin to wonder “what is wrong with me?”
Well, we all have moods. We wake up cranky or find ourselves depressed after something goes wrong at home or work.
Moods can come or go, and most of us can eventually work our way out of them and get back to a normal pattern. However, sometimes no matter how hard we work at them, they just don’t seem to go away, and sometimes they even get worse. During these times it can really begin to negatively affect our family life, our work life, even our church life. It becomes hard to smile, and when we do smile, it feels like plastic.
We may pray or even try to think about that which is positive, loving, etc., but it still hangs on. It is often hard to even think during these times that there really is a bright side.
Oh, by the way, we seldom hear about the person who struggles about being too happy. But, even during the times of being “high” (happy…maybe too happy) people can have a tendency to act impulsivily, talk in warp speed, even doing things that they would never do normally such as go on a spending binge for things that are not necessities, running up credit card bills for no other reason than “I just want that.”
During these times it is possible to be sleep deprived, and although exhausted, still lie wide awake and look for new projects, plans to tackle new things. But, then comes the normal time, and you begin to wonder “what was all that about?”
Sometimes these highs and lows come one after the other in a pattern which some call cyclical.
These highs and lows can be very troubling for both the individual that experiences them, but also for those close to them including family and friends. Many people who experience these emotions have been diagnosed (in the severe cases) with what is called bipolar disorder, a very treatable problem which usually requires medical help.
For the sufferer to begin feeling better about these things, the effects that these moods have on their lives and those who they love cannot be intellectually dismissed. When these moods are ignored (and, of course, often continue) there can be some severe consequences both for self and others.
Doing something means change, and change is often very difficult to address, whether it means consulting with your medical professional, therapist and/or getting therapy, or talking with a close friend like your minister – someone who will protect your privacy in these matters, which are often difficult to address and resolve.
Relationships are formed largely on what we expect from ourselves and others. If we expect the other person to be understanding, we’re more open with our feelings. If we expect a sarcastic bite now and again, we’re less open.
So when we have a relationship with a person experiencing these mood swings and he/she is different than yesterday, then something’s wrong, and we pull back.
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