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Well, why are you writing an article about the subject of love after the day when everybody (well, almost everybody) did something special for someone special? Well, I do have a reason, maybe many reasons, for this article.
You might want to check in your local store to find some real bargains on chocolates and flowers and other things — in fact, 50 percent off is not uncommon.
What is all this about one special day that has been set aside for this particular expression, especially when there are 364 other days to do the same thing? So, let’s talk about what love is and what love is not.
Have you ever been involved in the following exchange with the one you love/who loves you. It goes something like this: “Loveyouloveyoutoo,” usually in warp speed.
One day last week when I left to go to my counseling office, my wife stated happily “I love you,” and I responded by saying I know that and I appreciate that very much. I love to hear it, and I love to say it, but I’m not one who wants to do the echo response to her words because it gets lost in the overall expression.
Now there is nothing wrong with the 11-letter expression, per se, but it is often stated as the “right” thing to say after hearing it from your mate.
Love — a word we use so easily and might even think we know a bit about it. All of us want it, and in our better moments of life, we want to give it. Yet, it seems, there is seldom a more demanding responsibility and mark of real character than love.
In my practice, I have heard it expressed in very meaningful, deliberately enhancing ways, yet have heard it expressed in rages of anger and frustration in what sounds like an accusatory tone with accompanying body language.
Many of you could readily express love in its most complete and meaningful way toward someone who has done some harm to you or someone you love. Much of this must have also included forgiveness, which is not the easiest thing to do when you a) have little desire to do so, and b) don’t know if it will do any good anyway. And, of course, the greater the damage done the more difficult it is to forgive, and attempt to love that person.
Many, who know and believe the teaching of the Bible, readily believe that the greatest form of love was the willing death of Christ on the cross for our sins. Yet, very few would admit that they fully understand this level of love. Love is hard — especially in situations where it has been spurned/rejected when you have attempted to love someone. Even when the efforts may appear to make matters worse.
Although the author of the following is not known, it is well worth stating, “It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.” Some would question that statement and have reasons not to accept it fully.
But, if you have never loved, you have truly missed out on what it can feel like to exert yourself to that end. Have you ever wondered how life can go on when there is no expression of love between people?
I love to love and I love to receive love from my wife, my nuclear and extended family, my friends and my church friends. You have probably heard the song, “What the World Needs Now is Love (Sweet Love).”
And with what is going on in our world, almost wherever we turn there seems to be a great lack of it.
Let it be said that for me, love is the measure by which my life will be assessed by those I am closest to, both family and friends, and even, hopefully, many of my patients/clients I have been privileged to help.
I have often stated that if I were to ever have a stone placed near my grave when I die, I would like it inscribed with the words, “He loved and cared.” That would indeed be a legacy to be remembered by. How I ran my business, or how I became at all successful may seem important, but that isn’t how I want I want to be known.
So, now that you have presented the candy, the flowers, the meaningful cards that express love, what from here on will you do? What will you do today that will be seen as an expression of love? What special thing will you go out of your way to display to the ones you say you love?
Will you have to find a ‘legitimate’ reason for not remembering that “the day” was yesterday? Oh, come on, do something anyway, besides it will only cost 50 percent of what it would have cost on the 13th.
Love that is expressed is as much, maybe more, a blessing to you as it is to the receiver who is blessed by your efforts. Going out of your way tomorrow, and the next day, and next day, etc. is a more lingering and often more meaningful way of expression than doing it only on one day, because most everybody does it on that day.
It’s the in-between days, when not reminded by the card companies and candy confectioners that you’d better not forget.
Besides, any of the other days, when you do your special thing for the ones you love, you may be the only one on that day who is recognized by your special remembrance.
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