LETTER: Lapp’s columns are ‘excellent’; marriage is commitment-centered

I want to applaud  Dr. John Lapp’s articles that appear in our Magnet. Each one is excellent.  
With my 35 years in the field of mental heath and 58 years of marriage (with eight children), I feel my judgment is more that just a casual opinion regarding his last column on love and marriage.
The only thing I might add is when each side contributes 70 percent of giving — the marriage becomes successful. “Maidens” would like to see their husbands as a Sir Lancelot rather than a Don Quixote (the senseless knight who challenged only windmills). Husbands would like to be able to again see some of the excitement they first saw in that “maiden” they married.
It takes a lot of work to peel away the daily monotonous routines in order to reach that magic. And — love is not always at its “high” in a marriage. A couple is constantly falling in and out of love over time, but it is the commitment that provides the cement.
Tom Schmitt, LCSW
Taylorsville